Transitions

My husband the other day told me, “that’s not a bump in the road, that IS the road.”  I’ve kept this image and quote with me over the last couple of weeks during some challenging feelings (more on that another day.)  These “bumps” happen all of the time: some small and annoying while others large and scary.  Life is always in a state of flux.  We know this, so why is it so uncomfortable sometimes during the ride?

I spent the morning with 11 beautiful women today discussing and experiencing TRANSITIONS during the first flux workshop.  I love the idea of transitions: moving from one place to another, merging two ideas together, and the growth that inevitably occurs.  To me, it’s like a dance.  But let’s be honest, it’s not always that pretty; in fact, there are probably some tears, 4-letter words, and moans that accompany your transitions.  (If you could throw yourself on the ground and have a temper-tantrum, I bet you’d consider it.)  Change happens, whether you like it or not.

Many of us feel this during the changing of the seasons: how we transition our clothing, our homes, and our food.  September is always back-to-school and whether or not you have a kid, you feel the buzz as kids prepare, adults over-schedule, and Target dedicates half the store to school supplies.  Transition happens when you change careers, a parent dies, a baby is born, and my favorite: when you wake up every morning.

When you open your eyes every morning (or even that moment right before you do), what goes through your head?  The next few minutes can define your day.  Your transition from sleeping in your bed to starting your morning routine can be done in lots of ways.  With every transition something needs to end or you need to let something go.  In this instance, you need to accept the fact that sleepy-time is done.  If you don’t come to terms with this, then you’ll probably be a sour-puss all morning.  Next is the moment of introspection and a bit of reality.  You’re at the point where you know what has ended, but aren’t quite sure of what’s ahead.  You choose, my friend.  (Here’s where you insert your motivational quote from Pinterest…)

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Ask yourself, what good will occur today?  And lastly, as you place your feet on the ground next to your bed, your first steps are into your new beginning and your new energy.  Do you walk with intention and optimism or do you drag your feet still thinking about your butt in bed?  This is the last stage in transition and an opportunity to answer, “What do I want?”

As I write this I roll my eyes because I smack my alarm clock every morning.  No, not a gentle, graceful way of starting my day; yet, simply acknowledging this transition has had an impact on my mindset the past few weeks.  You can apply these stages to any transition: an ending, a time for introspection, and a new beginning.  This morning transition example is a quick one—only a matter of minutes—but what about the ones that last days, weeks, or even months?

Sitting in that unknown place can feel like Dr. Seuss’s waiting place:
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Not knowing what your next career move should be.  Not knowing who you are without a parent.  Not knowing who you are with a baby.  Why do we have to know all of the answers and why can’t there be a little more emphasis in just BE-ing in transition?  As our group realized today, not everyone has their shit together, despite how it may look.  Hearing, “me too!” is profound and comforting.  Ultimately we know that simply sitting in the discomfort will be transformative.

I’m in a transition period right now, trying to figure out what to do with my career now that I am a health coach.  I’ve identified myself as a group fitness instructor for over 15 years and it was always enough; quite honestly, I felt like I had the best job in the world.  But the inevitable bump in the road shakes me a little and I say, “WTF?”  It’s time for change, it’s time for growth, it’s time for….. I don’t know.  And that is okay.  What I am trying to embrace is the space in between these big chapters– the discomfort, the transition.  I will trip a little, maybe do some improvisation, but I’ll dance during the transition.  Wanna dance with me?

One of the best ways I’ve learned to handle transition is to talk about it with friends, family, and even strangers.  Every single human experiences it; so, what tools do you use to travel over the bumpy road?  What transitions are recurring for you and what new ones have you experienced?

8 thoughts on “Transitions

  • Great read, Heather. I got your back…but, you already know that. There is a great line from the John Travolta late 19990’s movie “Phenomenon” where he tells two young kids( too young to understand/appreciate death and dying”: ” we all on a journey… to somewhere…”. Here is to that frightening…wondrous journey…bumps and all!

  • Beautifully said, Heather. There really IS magic in that “me too.” I try (TRY) to think of transitions as a time of opportunity rather than spend too much time worrying about the uncertainty. There’s something so great for me about beginnings. Maybe it’s that so much less is expected of us in the beginning before we’re “experts.” There’s more wiggle room when we’re trying something new than when we’re doing the thing we’ve been doing well for a while. So I say consider this a time to dream and to play. I LOVED being part of that first session and I can’t wait to do more.

    • I couldn’t agree more, Nina! There’s not a fear of failure or perfection during beginnings because you can’t be an expert. It reminds me of my first Bikram class (that I took yesterday.) The instructor was commenting on how “new” students are able to be more aware, take direction, and be more in the present because there isn’t as much baggage. A new student has an open-mind and open-heart and there’s not as much inner-dialogue because of the unknown. Almost like ignorance is bliss 🙂 LOVED your input and energy in the first session.

  • Like Jimi Hendrix said, “the real beauty in music is the space between the notes.”
    Being OPEN while waiting makes the magic happen. And it definitely does help knowing you are not alone.

    Your website ROCKS! And I’ll totally dance with you. xoxo

    • Yes, you definitely need to be OPEN. And I love that image of the space in between the notes. Such a beautiful image… I remember choreographing a dance in college called THE SPACE IN BETWEEN and it was inspired by Kabbalah. I’ve got to dig up that video and show you…

  • Love it and can’t agree more! This reminds me of the quote I always find inspiring: Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to dance in the rain.

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